The scale

Tonight was a turning point for me, friends. Tonight, while Harper and I were at Publix we walked out of the bathroom and she saw the scale. You know, those big giant ones that when you step on, it feels like the entire store can see your weight? Harper looked at me and I knew she wanted to jump on and see how much she weighed. I encouraged her, and she jumped right on. “How much do I weigh, momma?”, she asked. “35 pounds, love! You are so big and strong!”, I said. Then she looked up at me, “What about you, momma? How much do you weigh? Why don’t you get on.” I paused. I looked at her. I looked at the scale. “I’m okay, love. I think I’ll pass.”

I’ve thought about this moment for four years, a moment that I knew would come. The moment I could make sure that my daughter would never, ever have a problem with the scale or use it to judge her self worth. And what what did I do? I said, “I’ll pass.” Luckily my child is nothing but persistent and she asked me to get on again. I looked at her sweet face and I got on that scale. She saw the hand on the scale go far past where it stopped for her. She looked at me and said, “What does it say, momma?” I said, “More than yours, love.” And we laughed together and walked out of the store and to our car.
In that moment I had a choice – and luckily I had two. But I never, EVER want to pass on my insecurities about my weight or size on to my daughter. The scary part is it’s just that simple, friends. It’s just saying “no thank you” or “I’ll pass” to a simple thing like getting on the scale in public that can make my child wonder why it’s not okay. Because if I’m not okay with my body, why should she be okay with hers? Maybe I’m making a bigger deal out of this single incident than necessary. But maybe not. I just know that I want to continue on my journey to find the best version of myself – to be comfortable in my own skin. To step on that scale without hesitation. To love myself.

Are you ready to take the step to Love Yourself Healthy? I’d love to have you join me and allow me to be a part of your journey, too. I don’t have to do this alone. And neither do you. Comment “I’m in!” or click on the link to submit an application:


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10 thoughts on “The scale

  1. This is a conversation that I hadn’t even processed in my head that I would one day have with my daughter. Quite the wake up call! She may only be 2, but I know that day will come and I want her to be confident and unafraid of what happens when she steps on the scale later in life – not like me at all!


    1. Isn’t it crazy how these moments just sneak up on us, Stephanie? I know I spend a lot of time working on building my daughter up and it’s crazy to think that the little things we say to *ourselves* are also impacting them.


  2. Aww you are such a great example to your daughter! I had something similar happen to me with the four year old I care for. She was going on a dinner date with her father and she kept telling me that she wasn’t pretty enough, because she was going in the same clothes she wore to school and wasn’t freshening her hair. 4 years old and she had already picked up on how her mom and I always change clothes, do makeup and hair before our date nights! It about broke my heart listening to this little girl tell me this 😦 You better believe there will be some changes happening with my habits for date night!!!


    1. Thank you, Emily. 🙂
      Oh my goodness! Isn’t it unbelievable what they pick up on? I wonder if you were to say something as simple as, “I want to feel my best before I go” if that would make a difference? It’s such a slippery subject because I know when I have done my hair and changed clothes before a date night I feel better too.


  3. I would love to learn more! I struggled with anorexia from 7th grade all through a few years ago. I’m 28 with three little girl’s myself. With the Lord’s help and my husband I have come a long way and don’t struggle with those tendencies anymore. Thanks for your encouragement!


  4. Thank you for your honesty! Weight is such a touchy subject. It certainly is for me, even as I’m working towards taking the weight off. I am right there with you – the last thing I want to do is pass on my body issues to my kids. Know better, do better. ❤


    1. It’s so true! I mean, I think it’s amazing for our kids to see us wanting to improve ourselves and get stronger but to pass the negative effects on is definitely something I want to avoid. Good luck to you too! 🙂


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